When Death Would Be Kinder

When Death Would Be Kinder

By: Susan Deborah Schiller

"I want to kill you, but it's more fun to watch you suffer," my abuser said to me while on a ministry trip. "No one will ever know, because you have no bruises," he smirked. When you are married and have kids with a sociopath, the violence is multi-generational and the aftershocks reverberate years later, even after you escape to freedom.

Most victims prefer physical violence to verbal or emotional abuse. Brain damage is more serious than a broken arm.

Psychological torture is a crime, but not in the eyes of this world's system. Most people will tell the victim, "It can't be that bad. At least he's not hitting you! Can't you have more grace? Don't judge. We're to speak only words that uplift and edify. Marriage problems are meant to be kept private."

I woke up one morning this past week with the words: "Relational Homocide". I believe God wants us to know that women and children are dying today, even if their bodies keep on living. Hopes and dreams are going up in smoke. Talents are buried. It's a wildfire of domestic violence burning through our churches and homes.

Death would be kinder. Some of these victims are drained dry, a mere shadow of who they used to be! They have been burned but no one sees the flames of hell. The wildfire of abuse continues, not only unabated, but growing.

Our easy grace message empowers the deception and burns the victims alive, like gasoline poured on fire!

Relational homocide. Why is it not treated as a crime? What role have I played in Satan's grand scheme to steal, kill, and destroy? May God grant me the strength to hit publish two times for every time I was silenced. Like Levi, I must be about my father's business of restoration and restitution. I have some paying back to do!

I know where God's heart is and who His eye is on…

But this is a people battered and cowed,

shut up in attics and closets,

Victims licking their wounds,

feeling ignored, abandoned.

But is anyone out there listening? – Is 42

Do you see? Not a bone is broken. No cuts and bruises to raise the alarm. What is not seen cannot be fixed. It's relational homocide.

I write for all those who are shut up in attics and closets, feeling ignored and abandoned. And I, too, am wondering – is anyone out there, listening?

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With all my love,

Sue

Susan Schiller knows how it feels to lose everything: marriage and family, church and reputation, finances and businesses, and more. Susan's upcoming, interactive memoir, "On the Way Home," tells the story of how she came to be known as "the most abused woman" her counselors had yet met and how she learned to navigate to freedom and fullness.

Today Susan helps people write their life stories, unearthing the treasures of their past and sowing them into their future, creating new family legacies.

When Death Would Be Kinder

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