Hidden Casualties of War

Hidden Casualties of War

From the "The Voice of the Widow" series

By: Kimberly Dimick

An open letter to an abused and abandoned wife, a Vet, whose grief is a hundredfold because most of her friends sided with her abusive husband, a charming sociopath everyone loves to love. She drank the bitter poison offered her by her captor, making her the scapegoat for a multitude of sins committed against her.

She is grieved that her heart seems bitter from the experience of being left behind by the friends she thought were eternal friends, her spiritual home. She is praying, wondering if God cannot bless her because there may be a root of bitterness in her. She feels like her heart is a toxic waste dump and doesn't want to contaminate others around her. Isolated, she may not survive long, without intervention.

The Princess Warrior School responds to this Widow:

Little One, you are so hard on yourself. There IS a bitterness in this life that is a natural outflow of bitter circumstances. It does not however mean you have a "root of bitterness" in you, precious one.

You WOULD have actually been MORE prone to destructive bitterness if you had NOT stood for the truth, embraced it and counted the cost. You would have been acting in concert with sin if you had not stood up against it.

Does this mean then that it did not affect you? Of course NOT! You ARE affected by your ex-spouse's rampant and unchecked sin. To say otherwise is making it as if sin has no power.

Sin is devastating and destructive, and that is why Jesus came to nullify its power in your life…..the only answer is Jesus!

Only God can take the effects of your husband's sins and put them upon Himself. He can restore you apart from what man has done to you. THAT is where our hope is. It is not in denying we have been victimized but realizing we have been and then making the choice as to what we will do in spite of it.

We can not forgive what we do not judge rightly. It is for us to judge the difference between what is of God and what is not. To call evil, "evil" and good, "good".

We tell men to STOP!: ENOUGH! REPENT! We tell them to LOOK AND SEE what their hands and wicked hearts have wrought.

God's truth goes out into all the Earth day and night, night and day and calls us to GOD.

Your ex-husband chose to live in a distant land apart from Christ, apart from truth, apart from love. THAT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. You are beating yourself up. You are putting on yourself the reproach, shame and guilt.

You are trying to make sense of the senseless by being this man's scapegoat and taking on his sin as if it were your own.

You have the RIGHT to grieve or God would never have said He is a COMFORTER. There would be no reason for our Savior to become a propitiation and be able to make an exchange…to give you a tiara for ashes, joy for mourning, praise for depression.

We point to the treachery to PROVE that God is not mocked and His Word is truth and there is ANOTHER WAY.

There is a Gospel that is the complete opposite to the kingdom of darkness. We have the assurance and certainty to war against sin for theses reasons, because the Kingdom of Darkness produces casualties of war.

There is reaping and sowing. God is not mocked and right now, right here in this group God is clearly proving that His Word IS truth. We are seeing with our own eyes the results of men who refuse to serve and follow God. GOD did not want this, nor was it HIS will or heart for any of us.

YOU WERE SWEPT UP IN THE WHIRLWIND!

Yet, as you, yourself, alluded to, Little One, God will not bless what is out of alignment and agreement to truth. Yes, I do understand that it feels unjust and unfair that His daughters had nothing to do with what these ungodly men have done and yet we are near enough to them that we are touched by the whirlwind they created!

Yet, there is HOPE and there is yet a future. God is NOT holding against the innocent what evil men have done.

It is like a robber breaking into your house and stealing treasured possessions and then you blaming yourself for what was stolen. No, the focus of your anger, loss and feeling violated is perfectly normal because you were truly victimized.

It may take you some time to grieve that violence done to you. It may even make you question God.

You may ask the Lord, "What is this Lord?…. I am your child and that thief broke in…why did you not protect me?"

And so now here are His daughters ravaged from the effects of a different kind of war and to want to pretend and bury our head in the sand and say it is not here is a worse and more cruel defeat.

There is a difference, sweet sister, between dealing with the effects of sin and having been the perpetrator of that sin. YOU DID NOT go about looking for bitterness.

You went looking for love and instead were given rejection.

Your path to freedom is knowing that God is WITH you in this pain. He will turn it around and make GOOD come from it. It takes time only because injustice, rejection, abandonment, and betrayal go deep into us and cause bondage and captivity to its affects.

The truth shall win and prevail at the end. God's Word is replete and FULL of a cry that comes forth from your ruins and brokenness. A cry that says, BUT GOD…if it had not been for God who IS on our side you would have been defeated and left for dead, imprisoned and in chains.

The Lord is NOT going to leave you there. You are the LOVED and perhaps you feel you have no strength and your whisper of praise you think is not heard… but the Lord hears it as He BENDS down to make you great. He comes to you and lifts you out of that place of despair.

You do not see today what He is creating in you and what you will be but the Lord is already up ahead in your future and God sees a warrior in the Spirit, a strong woman of God who will fight for others, your heart set toward the Lord like a flint, unshakable and unmoved.

You will set many captives free and you will have both tenderness and temerity, boldness in His Spirit.

Kimberly Dimick and her husband, Joshua Dimick, know how it feels to lose everything: marriage and family, church and reputation, finances and careers, and so much more. Together and separately they have walked the path of Love, a narrow path, a path that is lonely and not well-used. They know the soul-shattering pain of separation and divorce and the know "The Way Home" to a life of choosing unconditional love.

The surprising answers to a happy marriage are shared in her posts, articles, and her book-in-progress. As you venture on this journey with Kimberly you will experience how God shines His most brilliant light in her darkest hours. Today her mission is to provide a voice to women suffering in silence, shining the Light of Truth into the dark places. As you journey with Kimberly you will witness a true life transformation that will shatter the misinformation and lies commonly fed to women that keep them in false submission.

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